How To Heal After Losing A Spiritual Partner

Break up and Relationship advice.

Sometimes, we meet people we share such deep connections with...that we bond with them wholeheartedly. This can lead to those moments where you can feel the other persons state from miles away, or you may even develope psychic connections that let that person know you more intamatly than anyone else ever will. A person that fits this bill can bring you to the highest of highs, and the lowest of lows. The hardest part for anyone...is when this connection can no longer continue romantically. 

It's easy to fall into a pit of depression, and go through the normal cycles of loss & death. Sometimes even after the cycles are done and over with, we can't even say we are fully healed from it. You can google articles on divorce, break-ups, or whatever else you think may help you recover....yet, for many like myself- you never find anything about the deepest of deep connections. So I decided to write about my personal experience, and techniques I have used. I recently got out of a long term relationship myself, and in this light thought it would be a great time to share the techniques I am using to heal. Some are from external sources, and others are from my own meditations. I hope you find serenity sooner with these by your side.

- Master Antojai

1. Take a moment to let things settle down.

Your best friend isn't there anymore, and you need to pick up the personal pace again. It's extremely hard to get back into a new reality, especially if you weren't ready for it. So take your time to let the break-up, and dazed fog floating around you clear up. This helps with moving forward productively as you allow yourself to decompress.

2. Feel, but don't act

Sometimes you'll randomly get the urge to maybe say something unfinished, or maybe you want to work things out. Time is an illusion, but patience is your best friend. Let yourself go through the major parts of loss. Don't say anything until some time has passed. This gives you the ability to analyze the situation, and soundly decide what is best for you.

 3. Don't Stop Moving

It's so hard not to just sleep until you feel better, but you can't stop now. Keep up your creativity, personal interests, and hobbies as these will help you get over the matter sooner. Take up some gym time, read books, or hang out with your friends. Slowing down only makes your healing that much longer. Force yourself, you can do it!

4. Stay Positive

Force yourself to focus on the positives that person brought into your life, and celebrate the experiences you both shared. Many times we focus on the negative most recent facts that just fuel more negativity into your life. Negativity weighs you down, so don't spend time thinking about things of that nature.

5. Let your support system know about your healing

Those closest to you can help you with your healing. Don't keep things bottled up, talk about anything bothering you. Vent, but don't ramble. Let your support system know how hard this is for you, how you want to go about your healing, and how they can help you. Everything is easier in numbers. 

6. Don't lose sleep, redirect yourself

If you are anything like me, high emotions will cause insomnia. The worst thing is waking up at 4AM, and staring at the ceiling letting your emotions eat at you. So get up! Even if it's to stroll the house, use the bathroom, or start early on work - Don't Stop Moving. Fill yourself with positivity, as these kinds of activities will help you heal faster.

7. Write your feelings out on paper instead of resorting to drugs and alcohol.

Get a notebook, and write down all your thoughts. Anything that surfaces! You may make a tree chart, or just freely write - transfer your emotions onto paper. Transferance can be a great tool when applied properly. This helps empty yourself, and also think over the matter more closely. Sometimes we get a even clearer view on the matter once you see it in a new light (literally lol). 

8. Explore yourself

Take this time to just focus on yourself, and catching up with your authentic self. Get to know yourself from a different perspective. You might be amused with what you discover.

Master Antojai

Carrasquillo, A. (2017). Antojai Shamanic Wellness

Copyright © 2017 Antojai Shamanic Wellness, All rights reserved.

Photo by Charlie Foster 

On Mystical Experiences

Mystical experiences           

Mystical experiences can happen to anyone at any time. Whether, or not you choose to accept how these experiences happened is completely personal. Some of the most powerfully common experiences include synchronistic moments, insightful dreams, and clairvoyant thoughts.

           Synchronistic moments can be a really weird thing. Sometimes the experience can leave you so baffled that you begin to question the true weight of reality. These kinds of experiences are closely tied to the law of attraction and manifestation. Sometimes a person wants something so bad that all they think about is that target. Whether it’s a object, goal, or person. Your thoughts vibrate, just like everything else in the universe. Since vibrations impact the world and its physical operations, your thoughts are impacting your reality at all times. Summoning your deepest vibrational responses. If you think negative, you get more negative. If you think positive, you get more positive, (Bryne, 2017). That’s why there are those times where you thought so much about an event happening...for instance you wanted to spin a DJ gig, and suddenly things begin to shift so that you end up doing just that. You may meet the owner of a club in some random way who then tells you about his location, and how he just fired the last DJ for whatever reason. Here is the opportunity you have been waiting for! So you tell him you are a DJ and BAM! It’s really that easy. Now manifestation takes some time. Just because you think about it now doesn’t mean you will get it tomorrow. Things need to shift, and fall in place before they are of benefit to you. That’s why it’s important to continuously feed those thoughts of your positive desire, no matter what you may be facing at the time. These kinds of moments can really bring you a level of awe that makes you feel safe on all platforms because something is there working with you to get you to the next step.

            Dreams are said to be communications from our subconscious. In reality they are so much more than that. Dreams are connected to your intuition, which is generated from your third eye, which is constantly aware of unspoken hidden information. Sometimes you dream with a totem and then find out that that dream was very related to whatever you are facing at that time. The totem meaning can even be guiding you to something. Usually people end up seeing the correlations between their dreams and symbolism. After this they usually begin to question if there are other entities that are serving humanity. Other times you may dream with a loved one who may be giving you advice, before the event that is being addressed happens. These kinds of experiences usually drive in deeper that there is a world after this one. Clearly your loved one still exists if they came to you in a dream and gave you the winning mega-million, or helped you avoid death. Usually the totem and other spiritual links like talking to loved ones happen one after the other. So it’s important to pay attention to all dreams and how they are connected to each other.

            Now, has there ever been a moment where you knew information you shouldn’t have known? Maybe there was absolutely no way you could know this information, but somehow you know it and you’re correct. Clairvoyant moments are made up of just that, hidden information now made available through non-conventional means. This information can reach a person through any of the senses. Maybe you hear it, see it as one watches a movie, feel it, live it, or taste it. The most common are visionary and auditory. The information is completely relative to when you tap into your third eye, and how the entire event plays out. You may be talking to someone, and then you know something intimate about them. Other times you may know a new skill before you even read it in a book. The power behind clairvoyant moments is through becoming one with your astral-self. These kinds of experiences can be scary to many as it is uncommon for most. I don’t use unnatural because we are born with an astral-self, we all have a third eye, and we all have the ability to pick up vibrations from our environment so that we can processes higher levels of information. So… 8 out of 10 times it isn’t some negative supernatural thing. It’s you using your body, ("Spirit Science 1 ~ Thoughts", 2017).  Same as when you use your arm. For those who do not grow afraid, this can be a moving experience as it can inspire one to pursue the meaning of spirituality. These kinds of events are most common in those who have directed themselves in a spiritually authentic manner, as they are more in tune with themselves.

Master Antojai

Carrasquillo, A. (2017). Antojai Shamanic Wellness

Copyright © 2017 Antojai Shamanic Wellness, All rights reserved.

Photo by Aziz Acharki 

Ref:

Seaward, B. L. (2013). Health of the Human Spirit, 2nd Edition. [Kaplan]. Retrieved from https://kaplan.vitalsource.com/#/books/9781284090444/ 

Spirit Science 1 ~ Thoughts. (2017). YouTube. Retrieved 5 July 2017, from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xmN2RL4VJsE

Bryne, R. (2017). The Secret (2nd ed., pp. http://glearning.tju.edu.cn/pluginfile.php/145488/mod_resource/content/1/The.Secret.%28Rhonda.Byrne%29.pdf). New York, NY: Atria Books. 

Evolving Past Deep Seeded Anger

Soul Retrieval Exercise

Anger is one of the strongest emotions next to hate. When we lack control over our anger, it can take us down a path that only hinders our growth. Maybe it was someone who said something, or maybe a life event that you don’t agree with; no matter which way you look at it…anger is impairing your health, soul, and progress. The best methods I have found for this are self-study, and group therapy, (Seaward, 2013).

Sometimes our anger originates from something deep within our subconscious. The somewhere doesn’t matter in this instance, just the something that caused you that emotional response. Anger can be like a shark. Lurking in the shadows for the right moment to strike, and feed. With patients who experience PTSD from childhood experiences, an effective meditation I developed addresses, confronts, and depowers the emotional response that triggers that flashback.

Mental Control Exercise:

1.     The next time you have a flashback about a unresolved matter that brings you anger - stop it right in its tracks. Pause it like you would a film.

2.     Analyze why this moment brings you this anger. Study the event from every character’s perspective, even the third person narrator.

3.     When you feel like you have a clear enough understanding, talk to that version of you trapped within the memory. Reason with that version of yourself and explain to them the true premise of the situation from your now distant future self. Depending on how determined your subconscious is on holding on to this anger, is whether or not you will have to try this exercise multiple times until it is resolved internally.

4.     When accomplished, the memory that haunted you suddenly disappears. It stops reoccurring because you resolved it at its time. Many times, anger gets the best of us because we decided not to communicate our true feelings at the time needed. We then become resentful, which fuels our anger. This anger takes valuable time from our personal development by making us dwell on the matter. That same anger can then bring us depression, anxiety, stress, and sometimes insomnia. Other symptoms may come from repressed emotions like physical pains that can’t be pinpointed with modern equipment; due to the astral body is damaged, (Carrasquillo, 2017).

The next best exercise is to lay down in a quiet place where no one will bother you. Take a few deep breathes, and start to recall certain emotions (in this case anger). As you summon this feeling, take notice of where you feel it in your body. Notice what the sensations are. Now think of any physical problems you may be facing due to this emotion. If nothing physical is present, then think about how it impairs your functioning and thinking. By doing this exercise you will experience first-hand how your emotions effect you on a spiritual, mental, and physical level. You can do this exercise with any emotion. The more you try it, the better you will get at understanding yourself, your triggers, and how to stop these negative frequencies from affecting you, (Mills, 2017).

These exercises are great within a group system as you can gather other viewpoints for your understanding. If groups, or a partner are difficult to find or afford, these exercises and many more can help you heal yourself. The power of your own health lies within the harmony of your mind. Master that, and all else will follow. Programs like Shamanic Counseling, Alcoholics Anonymous, Mediation Therapy, and Conflict Counseling have shown to have a deep level of spirituality which impacts individuals to make, and support mind/body/soul progression.

Master Antojai

Carrasquillo, A. (2017). Antojai Shamanic Wellness

Copyright © 2017 Antojai Shamanic Wellness, All rights reserved.

Photo by Austin Chan 

Ref:

Seaward, B. L. (2013). Health of the Human Spirit, 2nd Edition. [Kaplan]. Retrieved from https://kaplan.vitalsource.com/#/books/9781284090444/

Mills, H. (2017). Anger Management. Mentalhealth.net. Retrieved 27 June 2017, from http://https://www.mentalhelp.net/articles/anger-management-programs/