How To Heal After Losing A Spiritual Partner
Losing a partner is one of the toughest things that can happen to a person. Especially, if you two shared a psychic bond. Here are some tips to help you recover from a break-up, or broken relationship.
Break up and Relationship advice.
Sometimes, we meet people we share such deep connections with...that we bond with them wholeheartedly. This can lead to those moments where you can feel the other persons state from miles away, or you may even develope psychic connections that let that person know you more intamatly than anyone else ever will. A person that fits this bill can bring you to the highest of highs, and the lowest of lows. The hardest part for anyone...is when this connection can no longer continue romantically.
It's easy to fall into a pit of depression, and go through the normal cycles of loss & death. Sometimes even after the cycles are done and over with, we can't even say we are fully healed from it. You can google articles on divorce, break-ups, or whatever else you think may help you recover....yet, for many like myself- you never find anything about the deepest of deep connections. So I decided to write about my personal experience, and techniques I have used. I recently got out of a long term relationship myself, and in this light thought it would be a great time to share the techniques I am using to heal. Some are from external sources, and others are from my own meditations. I hope you find serenity sooner with these by your side.
- Master Antojai
1. Take a moment to let things settle down.
Your best friend isn't there anymore, and you need to pick up the personal pace again. It's extremely hard to get back into a new reality, especially if you weren't ready for it. So take your time to let the break-up, and dazed fog floating around you clear up. This helps with moving forward productively as you allow yourself to decompress.
2. Feel, but don't act
Sometimes you'll randomly get the urge to maybe say something unfinished, or maybe you want to work things out. Time is an illusion, but patience is your best friend. Let yourself go through the major parts of loss. Don't say anything until some time has passed. This gives you the ability to analyze the situation, and soundly decide what is best for you.
3. Don't Stop Moving
It's so hard not to just sleep until you feel better, but you can't stop now. Keep up your creativity, personal interests, and hobbies as these will help you get over the matter sooner. Take up some gym time, read books, or hang out with your friends. Slowing down only makes your healing that much longer. Force yourself, you can do it!
4. Stay Positive
Force yourself to focus on the positives that person brought into your life, and celebrate the experiences you both shared. Many times we focus on the negative most recent facts that just fuel more negativity into your life. Negativity weighs you down, so don't spend time thinking about things of that nature.
5. Let your support system know about your healing
Those closest to you can help you with your healing. Don't keep things bottled up, talk about anything bothering you. Vent, but don't ramble. Let your support system know how hard this is for you, how you want to go about your healing, and how they can help you. Everything is easier in numbers.
6. Don't lose sleep, redirect yourself
If you are anything like me, high emotions will cause insomnia. The worst thing is waking up at 4AM, and staring at the ceiling letting your emotions eat at you. So get up! Even if it's to stroll the house, use the bathroom, or start early on work - Don't Stop Moving. Fill yourself with positivity, as these kinds of activities will help you heal faster.
7. Write your feelings out on paper instead of resorting to drugs and alcohol.
Get a notebook, and write down all your thoughts. Anything that surfaces! You may make a tree chart, or just freely write - transfer your emotions onto paper. Transferance can be a great tool when applied properly. This helps empty yourself, and also think over the matter more closely. Sometimes we get a even clearer view on the matter once you see it in a new light (literally lol).
8. Explore yourself
Take this time to just focus on yourself, and catching up with your authentic self. Get to know yourself from a different perspective. You might be amused with what you discover.
Master Antojai
Carrasquillo, A. (2017). Antojai Shamanic Wellness
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How To Cultivate Your Spiritual Development
Having trouble with your spiritual developement? Maybe you are a psychic in training, a medium, or shaman. Even if you are not, here are my expert tips on growing your spirituality. Connecting you to your higher-self.
Shamanic Practices
Following our true path is sometimes a difficult task. Why? Well, a lot of the time we get caught up in the goal we want to achieve… that we forget about the process it takes to get to said goal.
So what are the steps to finding your true path?
It’s first most important to find the goal you want to attain. If you want to be emotionally in control of yourself (just to save us time on endless other scenarios), you have to address your need for change…and why that change is being requested. “I want to be emotionally in control because I have noticed the strain it brings my family when I fly off the handle. They need this from me so that we can ALL live in a better fashion. If I don’t aim at correcting this problem … happiness will never be reached.“
The Dalai Lama’s mantra on happiness is a great example to follow your thoughts by. To advance as a society, we must put the happiness of our brothers within our own happiness, (Carmichael, 2017). We are all one. Your family is a unit of one, a unified source. Therefore, it is only logical to assume that your happiness is directly tied to that of everyone else in your family. You can’t ignore that they have family outside of your known circle as well. So in theory you create a mandala of positive events to take place, ("Dalai Lama speaks on Inner Peace, Inner Values & Mental States", 2017). This imagery came to me one day while reading the Dalai Lamas teachings: There is a village with very low resources. One person is extremely poorer than the rest, and is in hunger. If you take notice that watching this person suffer, in turn makes you suffer, we are one. If we are one, we treat ourselves the way we best want to treat ourselves. If we are one, You don’t want to suffer. If you give a small portion of your happiness to help another, in turn you are helping yourself. So by giving him food you can easily share, you will see him light up, and maybe his light will spread. Other people may feel moved by your willingness to not ignore yourself, that they in turn- will not ignore your brother who is a part of them.
By analyzing the true source for your need to change you can begin to see past the limits of yourself. Now you can take a look into why you react the way you do to certain situations. This path will lead you to see your story from a new perspective. You can then begin to create action plans within your own subconscious to fight off the responses you no longer find fit. Just by thinking of others first, you can now understand yourself more intimately. By understanding yourself at this level, you can take major shifts to finding your true path. This intimacy evolves, and morphs your environment, (Seaward, 2013).
These are the first few steps that may be the hardest. Just being vulnerable with yourself to understand that this is not your universe where everything revolves around you. Sometimes the truth behind that thought is a hard pill to swallow, but it’s a pill that must be swallowed. It’s through the belief that, “Nothing else matters, but me” - that we lose ourselves to begin with. Before we know it.. we are all alone. Wondering what went wrong. At its most extreme, the individual may never come to grips with the true content of their reality. To think of your universe as one collected pool of vibrations, that reacts to your intentions; you can then begin to accept that by improving yourself, you improve the world, (Carmichael, 2017).
After that, the rest is literally a voyage of yourself. Each chapter is something new to enhance. Perpetually increasing the positive content around you, and giving you more opportunities to manifest your deepest desires.
Master Antojai
Carrasquillo, A. (2017). Antojai Shamanic Wellness
Copyright © 2017 Antojai Shamanic Wellness, All rights reserved.
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Ref:
Seaward, B. L. (2013). Health of the Human Spirit, 2nd Edition. [Kaplan]. Retrieved from https://kaplan.vitalsource.com/#/books/9781284090444/
Dalai Lama speaks on Inner Peace,Inner Values & Mental States. (2017). YouTube. Retrieved 14 June 2017, from https://youtu.be/Xnr2SPHLraI
Carmichael, E. (2017). Dalai Lama's Top 10 Rules For Success (@DalaiLama). YouTube. Retrieved 14 June 2017, from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSktiBReOSA